Divorce Hacker: Survive to Thrive

How To Maintain Kindness, Respect, and Generosity in Your Divorce with Tom Sturges

Episode Summary

Join the Divorce Hacker with Tom Sturges to learn how he cracked the code on how to have a good divorce.

Episode Notes

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes 

“I had three main ideas I wanted to follow through my divorce; kindness, respect, and generosity.” 4:29

“Hey, we’re not going to be married anymore, now what?” 5:40

“My number one goal in getting divorced was to not be bitter.” - Ann @ 6:35

“I will give you 100% custody, without any strings attached and no no anger whatsoever, in exchange for 100% visitation.” 9:09

“I know what I was able to do was to let my relationship with my wife change.” 13:23

“Do everything you can to stay married. Respect your wife throughout every moment of this thing.  If you want to be generous, that’s fine, but don’t be stupid generous.” 27:44

“The couples that I’ve worked with in the collaborative process are by and far my happiest divorced clients.” - Ann @ 33:01

Guest Bio

Tom Sturges is an icon in the music industry.  He served as President of Chrysalis Music and Head of Creative for Universal Music Publishing Group. He has been an active Grammy member for over 30 years.  He’s also authored 5 books and is a regular guest speaker and educator.  He is a professor at UCLA and father of 3 boys living in Los Angeles.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Divorce Hacker Intro

0:49 - Introducing Tom Sturges

2:05 - Cracking the Code

3:35 - How Did You Make It A Good Divorce?

6:22 - Write One Check

13:18 - How the Relationship with My Wife Changed

19:28 - The Importance of Not Flaunting the New Girlfriend

24:00 - The Fellow in England Who Lost His Castle

28:14 - Thoughts on A Loveless Marriage & Staying Married for the Kids

34:13 - Scorched Earth Divorce Stories

38:57 - Thank You & Divorce Hacker Closing

For more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/

Links & Where to Find Tom 

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-sturges-79512a55/

IG - https://www.instagram.com/tomsturgesideas/

Book

A Good Divorce Starts Here by Tom Sturges